Abstract: Lin Daiyu, commonly regarded as a delicate and romantic lady, is the dream-girl of many men. Xue Baochai, widely considered as a sophisticated and amiable lady, is the right dutiful wife to many men. Both ladies have special charm which have attracted men and women in all times. The paper aims to explore how Daiyu and Baochai get along with others and what attitude they hold towards love. In doing so, it attempts to provide modern women with some interpersonal communication strategies and techniques in their love affairs.

Key words: Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai, communication strategies, love

摘要: 脆弱浪漫的林黛玉，是历来所有男子们的梦中情人；温婉圆滑的薛宝钗，则是历来最适合男子们的贤妻良母。两个女性都以其独特的魅力吸引了古往今来的男女老少。本论文将探索黛玉、宝钗二人的处世方式以及二人对待爱情的态度，以此尝试为现代女性提供一些处世技巧以及恋爱策略。

关键词：林黛玉，薛宝钗，处世，爱情