摘要：家庭教育问题是世界性的问题，家庭教育影响着亲子两代的发展。中国有着自己独特的国情，在家庭教育方面也不同于其他国家。目前，中国式的家庭教育还存在着智育上忽略技能和潜能，美育上缺乏理性，体育上忽略体能锻炼以及德育不到位等问题。家庭教育的目标是青少年一代，但它给亲子双方都带来了巨大的影响，其中对子女的负面影响为子女被父母驯服，大小事由父母包办，父母权威不可动摇，子女隐私不被尊重，学习压力大以及健全的人格得不到塑造等方面，而对父母的负面影响则包括丧失自我，期望值越高，失望值越高和不被子女理解等方面。因此，我们着力于从以下几个方面进行改革，首先是教育目的——变“成才”教育为“成人”教育，其次是教育内容一一变“片面”教育为“全面”教育，最后是教育方式一一变“管束”教育为“宽松”教育，变“封闭”教育为“开放”教育。

关键词:中国式家庭教育；亲子关系；负面影响

Abstract：Family education is a worldwide topic. Family education has an influence on the development of parent-child two generations. China has its own unique national condition. In terms of family education, it is different from other countries. At present, there are still many problems in the Chinese family education. People are used to ignoring the skills and potential on the intellectual, lacking rationality on aesthetic, ignoring physical exercises on sports and being lack in moral education. The target of family education is the younger generation, but it gives both parents and children huge negative impacts. The negative impacts on children are various. Firstly, children are always tamed by parents. Secondly, everything is arranged by parents. Thirdly, parental authority can not be shaken. Fourthly, the privacy of children is not respected. Fifthly, pressure from study is huge. Sixthly, sound personality can not be shaped. Negative impacts on parents include loss of self, the higher expectations, the more disappointed, and not being understood by children. Therefore, we should focus on reforming from the following aspects, the first is for educational purposes, changing "taught" education to "adult" education, followed by the educational content, changing "one-sided" education to a "comprehensive" education, and finally education methods, changing the "bundle" education to a "liberal" education, and changing the "closed" education for the education of the "open".

Key words: Chinese Family Education; Parent-child Relationship; Negative Impact

　　　家庭教育从古至今都是一个世界性的课题，中国自古以来就很重视家庭教育。虽然家庭教育在我国已经引起了社会各界，特别是教育界的极大关注，但是时至今日，当我们用科学的、现代的眼光来审视中国家庭教育现状以及发展的一些新趋向时，便会发现真正科学的、开放式的家庭教育，尚未全面地普及。

　　　家庭教育影响亲子两代的发展，探讨家庭教育与亲子两代的关系有较强的现实意义。研究中国式家庭教育有助于传承中华民族优良的教育传统，与时俱进，具有历史意义。此研究指导着中国家庭寻求合理的适合自身的家庭教育方式，有较强的实践意义。同时，此研究能丰富我国的家庭教育理论，具有学术意义。

　　　本研究基于家庭教育本身的重要性以及当前理性科学的家庭教育理念缺失的现状，探讨中国家庭教育的特征及其对亲子两代的影响，追本溯源并面对现实，为中国家庭教育的发展提出合理建议。